3 little ways to make a woman feel deeply attached to you

The importance that both men and women naturally place on feeling important, capable, and likeable in our interactions and relationships with others gives rise to these three basic wants.

Just as everyone fears being shunned, degraded, and rejected, everyone also wants to feel significant, loved, and included.

Here are three simple methods to elicit strong feelings of attachment from a woman:

1. Meet her need for control

If you want her to feel deeply attached to you, she needs to feel safe enough to trust you. One way to establish this trust is by making sure she always knows when she’ll see you or hear from you next.

Rather than leaving her out there hanging, worrying about when you’ll call, text, or make plans to see her again, maintain clear communication so she knows what to expect.

This lets her know she is an important person in your life, which means you also fulfill her need to feel significant.

For instance, if you end a date by saying you’ll call her tomorrow must follow through on that promise. When you do, you act in integrity with who you are, and you make her feel seen and appreciated. If you don’t, you’ve broken a promise.

3 little ways to make a woman feel deeply attached to

2. Meet her need for inclusion

When you share your life and circumstances with her, you bring her closer to you by making her feel included. The more you share about yourself, the more she feels connected to who you are. When you open up to her about your daily achievements and problems, you make her feel she’s a part of what’s going on in your life.

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As a result, you create a deeper connection with her, which is exactly what many men unconsciously try to avoid by not communicating about things that are important to them.

If you prefer listening quietly to her without sharing much about yourself, you may satisfy her need for attention, but eventually, she will feel as though she is giving you everything and you are giving her nothing.

She may even unconsciously feel humiliated if she believes you don’t think she’s good enough or smart enough for you to confide in her.

When you get together with your girlfriend, if all you want to do is have fun and make jokes with her, you may think you’re being entertaining, but in fact, your humorous manner is more likely to come off as you insisting on wearing a mask intended to keep you disconnected from her at “safe” distance rather than inviting her in more closely, which is what she needs to become more deeply attached to you.

3. Meet her need for affection

We all want to be loved, adored, and cherished, so these desires are part of the third ingredient in Schutz’s theory. Understanding which of the five love languages you and your girlfriend speak, as well as what each language represents, is a great way to meet your woman where she is.

According to the theory first written about by Dr. Gary Chapman in his book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, each of us has a primary (and, typically, a secondary) love language which is how you naturally prefer to both express and receive love.

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If words of appreciation are of primary importance to a woman, she loves it when a man expresses his thoughts about her intelligence, beauty, and other positive attributes with frequent compliments.

When women prefer receiving gifts, tokens of your appreciation, such as flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and the like, confirm to her that your feelings are true.

Some feel most loved when their boyfriend is there to perform acts of service or devotion, such as making sure she always has a full tank of gas, taking the trash out to the sidewalk on the day it will be picked up, or fixing broken items around the house.

Another way some women prefer to give and receive love is through physical touch. A woman who speaks this love language may be especially eager not only to be intimate, but to cuddle with you as you watch TV, or to feel your hand resting on her knee as you drive.

Finally, there are women who most fully feel your love when you share quality time. When you make sure to be home at a certain time so the two of you can catch up, or you carve out one day per week to spend only with her, she feels safe and secure in your love for her.

The more you learn about your partner’s love language, the more you can meet them where they are and make them feel loved, adored, and cherished.

And if you manage to make a woman feel loved, while also fulfilling her basic needs for a degree of control and inclusion … well then, you will have mastered your way to deep attachment and make her fall madly in love with you in return.

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