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How to choose between two lovers

Many are greedy enough to love more than one person. Many men enjoy variety purely for its own sake. Many women want their own gain. Hearing about ladies who have two boyfriends is not uncommon.

Typically, a sugar daddy takes care of a person’s basic necessities, including clothing, food, housing, and a cell phone. She gets her emotional and social demands, such sex and outings, met by the other person, usually a member of her peer group.

Some individuals who are already in relationships come across others who seem to have something greater or different than their partners. They can’t help but relish the positive aspects of both. But it’s crucial to stick to one partner at a time.

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How to choose between two lovers

Choosing between two lovers

It is difficult to be in a relationship with one person. If you are in a relationship with more than one person, it is more difficult. If emotions are involved, it becomes complex because when you are madly in love, you find it difficult to think logically.

It becomes difficult to tell if what you feel is love, lust or infatuation.

• Know yourself and know what you want in a relationship, characters and personalities that attract you.

• Honestly list the strength of your lovers. Consider qualities such as mutual understanding, honesty, commitment, appreciation, hard work, tolerance, fairness and a forgiving spirit.

• Honestly list the weaknesses in your lovers. Consider qualities such as substance abuse, selfishness, abuse, inequality, intolerance and immorality.

• Compare your list of strengths and weaknesses. Find which has more of the good qualities. Even for the “winner,” ensure that you can live with his faults under every scenario.

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Above all, ensure that your relationship has a future, not just for fun. You should have a lot in common. Decide on one and stick to him or her. Forget the rest and cut all contacts.

Sometimes you wish you had someone who had a combination of all the qualities you want but you are not dealing with angels but imperfect human beings. No two people are the same. We all have our strengths and our weaknesses.

It is common to find people attracted to others who have opposite qualities. A quiet person may be attracted to a talkative. The problem is that in the end opposite qualities clash and put a relationship at risk.

Stick with one lover

It could be embarrassing and difficult to find yourself between two lovers. Choosing is always a problem. You think about what might happen with the other but remember you could equally be happy with either of them if you show honesty, commitment and a forgiving spirit.

Decide quickly to decide on a single lover. Having two lovers is not fair to you or anyone. A delay may cost you both if they get to know you are dating both of them.

You have to lie and again lie to cover up lies till it explodes when you least expect it. Akans say if you look through a bottle with both eyes, everything becomes blurred.

Again if you can’t keep to one lover now you break your trust and commitment and find it hard to keep to your lover when you marry.

Stick to one partner at a time. Love is within you and you only need to savour and nurture it.

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There is nothing more fulfilling in life than to have only one person for yourself and to yourself. Anything more than two erodes commitment and trust. It is no longer friendship but company that may explode in your face. The message is simple; keep one lover at a time.

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